Why the Mormon Church Should Process my QuitMormon Resignation Without Delay

You don’t want the Bishop to learn what I know

Jeffrey Hughes
5 min readMar 28, 2020


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Today I submitted my resignation from the Mormon church through Quitmormon.com. I’m so glad lawyer Mark Naugle is volunteering his time to help people like me submit our resignations. The fact that we need a lawyer to get a worldwide church to do some paperwork for us is evidence that we are in a cult.

Honestly, besides the feeling of finality that comes with hitting “submit,” what makes me upset is the thought of church leaders contacting me and trying to talk me out of my decision — as if I haven’t thought and agonized about this for years.

Ever since my brother left the church while I was on a mission, I’ve wondered why someone I love and respect so much, who has been a mentor figure for me for years, would make this decision. My mission ended in 2013. That’s… 7 years ago.

I’ve thought about this since I read the CES Letter in 2015. I’ve read countless blog articles, listened to hundreds of hours of podcasts, many books, and read and reread the church’s apologetics. I’ve considered arguments from both sides. I’ve seen clearly that the “apostates” are mostly honest, and the apologists for the church are squirrely, deceptive, and disingenuous.

I tried talking to my ex-wife about these issues. She refused to discuss anything church related— much less do any critical thinking — and I believe that it contributed to our divorce.

The real issue is that I really believed that the church was true — which is why it hurts so much that it is not.

Plenty of Mistakes

I made plenty of mistakes during my faith crisis. I tweeted under my own name when I knew that my parents followed me. When I tweeted about Fanny Alger being “sealed” to the prophet several years before the sealing power was restored in 1836, my parents called me crying because what I had said disturbed them.

Ha ha ha Mom and Dad, it disturbed me too.

I now tweet somewhat anonymously.

I learned that you can’t openly question the church or its history in front of True Believers. Why? Questioning the…



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